How to Eliminate Stress Part 10: Learn to Say No

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You cannot be everything to everybody all of the time. It is humanly impossible to do and attempted suicide if you try. In order to keep your sanity, you are just going to have to tell some people no, no matter who they are. You should have peace about the things that you commit yourself to, and if you do not, then you should not do it. Of course people will get mad at you, talk about you, and even shut you out, but if that’s the case, you probably need to reevaluate the people in your life and their true motives. If you don’t set boundaries, people will run you ragged. People are inherently selfish and needy and if you don’t set boundaries in your life, you won’t have one because you’ll be constantly living for others and their expectations.

If you’re used to saying yes all the time, saying no may hurt a little and even seem strange, but the peace that will follow will be well worth it. In order to stay sane and not fly off the handle on a daily basis, boundaries are absolutely necessary. We need to set healthy boundaries with our families, our friendships, our working relationships, our romantic relationships, etcetera, and we need to make those boundaries known. If people respect you like they say they do, they’ll operate within those limits and be okay if you can’t always do what they want you to do. Saying no is not a sin and eventually the people you say it to will get over it. You must learn how to take care of yourself because if you’re tired and exhausted all the time, which will eventually lead to sickness, you won’t be of any good to anybody anyway, including God, Who is the only Person that you should be concerned about pleasing. Your body needs rest, a balanced diet, and sleep, and you can’t give it that if you’re over extending yourself.

If you think this will be a hard task for you, ask the Lord to help you. You should always pray about the task you are thinking about committing to anyway, but you will need to learn to be quiet and still long enough to hear God’s response. For now on, before blurting out yes to everything that is asked of you, start by responding by, “Let me pray on it and I’ll get back to you.” If God gives you the green light, go for it; if He doesn’t, don’t go forward. If you want to relieve stress you must learn to yield to the Holy Spirit at all times. Saying no is actually a healthy word to include in your vocabulary, so give it a try and watch peace replace stress!

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How to Eliminate Stress Part 9: Change Your Perspective

When the fig tree does not bud, and there are no grapes on the vines; when the olive trees do not produce, and the fields yield no crops; when the sheep disappear from the pen, and there are no cattle in the stalls, I will rejoice because of the Lord; I will be happy because of the God who delivers me!  

Habakkuk 3:17-18 MSG

How you view things in life is very important, especially as a Christian. The world will point out everything that is wrong, but it is up to us to see the good, especially in our own circumstances. I’m going to translate verse 17 of today’s scripture in modern language in terms of how life can try to get us down:

Though my bills keep pouring in and my bank account is in the negative;

Though my workload at my job is overwhelming and people are testing my patience;

Though my enemies are plotting against me and my health is declining;  Continue reading

Run and Tell That

Come and listen, all you who fear God, and I will tell you what he did for me.

Psalms 66:16 NLT

We live in a world full of pain, sorrow, disappointment, and blame. God is getting blamed for everything that is wrong in the world, and it’s time for His children to rise and defend His honor. God is doing so much good in the world and in the lives of His children, but it gets overshadowed by negativity. Christians need to be shouting from the rooftops about how good God has been to them. How will people know if we don’t tell them? A person can always argue what they see, but they can’t argue your testimony. People are so carnal now that for some, in order for them to believe, they need to see the miraculous. We can be so quick to open our mouths to gossip or to complain, but when it comes to bragging about God, all of a sudden, we fall mute. What sense does that make?!? Use your mouth to glorify God!  Continue reading

If He Did It Before, He’ll Do It Again!

“… ‘The LORD who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.’”

1 Samuel 17:37 NIV

So often we forget what God has done in our lives when we find ourselves in a bind. We tend to only focus on why He isn’t working right then instead of remembering how He has come through for us in the past. God is always working whether you feel it or not. It’s times like these when you have to get out of your head and focus on what you know. Instead of giving into the pressure of what your circumstance may look like, think, “If God brought me out before, He can surely do it right now.” I even challenge you to add “God I am expecting you to deliver me.” In dire times, you need to focus on the solution (God) and not the problem. God is bigger than any problem that you can ever have.  Continue reading

Truth or Convenience?

A few days later Felix and his wife, Drusilla, who was Jewish, sent for Paul and listened to him talk about a life of believing in Jesus Christ. As Paul continued to insist on right relations with God and his people, about a life of moral discipline and the coming Judgment, Felix felt things getting a little too close for comfort and dismissed him. “That’s enough for today. I’ll call you back when it’s convenient.”      

(Acts 24:24-25 MSG emphasis added)

People today would rather hear what sounds good rather than what will benefit them and help them grow. Sadly, telling the truth in this day and age is more like a sin than lying. Wanting to hear what always feels good does more damage than hearing the heartbreaking truth. We can only grow when we know the error of our ways and only hearing the truth will do this. People draw back when the truth is spoken. They withdraw from people, places (church), activities (Bible reading), and God when confronted. We love convenience too much to the point where we are in jeopardy of Godly living. We want to interpret and twist facts to help benefit our individual agendas. We actually stifle our own growth by doing these things. In today’s scripture, Paul was trying to explain to Felix how to live right before God and his people, discipline, and God’s soon coming judgment. Paul was sent away until a more convenient time because what Paul was telling him was hitting the wrong cords for Felix. When we do things like this, we are setting ourselves up to live a life of deception. Everything will not always be easy, and it surely won’t always feel good, but we’ll never grow in God if we don’t hear the hardcore truth daily. The more we run from the truth, the more the devil can use and deceive us. Ultimately, this sets us up to live a life of bondage.  Continue reading

How to Eliminate Stress Part 8: Tackle Financial Debt

“The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get”

Proverbs 21:20 NLT

A lot of people’s stress comes from money problems, which can lead to stress in other areas of their lives. Some of our financial difficulties come from the demands of life, but honestly, most of the problems stem from not budgeting, living beyond our means, and not controlling our fleshly desires. We put a lot of unnecessary stress on ourselves for these very reasons. It really boils down to not wanting to do what the Bible says regarding money and wanting to spend whatever you want to spend. If you have this mentality you’ll have stress your whole life.  Continue reading

The Real Enemy Is…

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“Sometimes you yourself can be your own worst enemy.”

~Anonymous~

 

The devil is not to blame for everything bad that happens in our lives. I know this is probably a shock to you, but it’s true. Now don’t get me wrong, he is responsible for a lot of what happens to us, but not everything. It is true that he is our enemy and he hates us. His main goal is to steal, kill, and destroy (see John 10:10), but he also has help with carrying out his mission. I know what you’re thinking, “If the devil isn’t always responsible, then who is?” The answer that no one wants to hear is YOU ARE! Yes, you can be responsible for your own chaos. I know society teaches us not to take responsibility and to pass blame, but that is not the Christian way. Believe it or not, you have a personal hand in aiding the devil in destroying you.  Continue reading

What the Devil Really Wants

“…for the joy of the LORD is your strength.”
Nehemiah 8:10 KJV (emphasis added)

The world is full of “things.” People work hard for them, go to great lengths to protect them, and will sometimes do anything to get them. Having “things: makes people feel good and they can give a feeling of accomplishment and prestige. When the devil comes against you, he’s not after your “stuff.” Think about it, why would he be? He’s a spirit being so he doesn’t need to take tangible things from you. Rather, he’s interested in taking something much more powerful—your joy and your strength. The devil will throw attacks at you that will make you doubt if God is really on your side and protecting you.  Continue reading

God Is No Respecter of Persons

 

Then Peter began to speak: “I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism.

Acts 10:34 NIV (emphasis added)

 

You should never judge God for what He does for someone. You don’t know what that person had to do to get what they have, nor is it any of your business. God does not have favorites—He deals with all of His children accordingly. If you are not willing to put in the work God is calling you to do, you have nothing to say about how other people are getting blessed and your lack thereof. God has a different way of blessing His children, but He blesses us all the same and at different times. He might supernaturally bless someone, whereas you might have to take the long road to get your blessing. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t going to get what you asked for; it just means that God has a different avenue for you namely to develop your spiritual growth and deepen your relationship with Him. There is something to be learned on the way to your blessing. Treasure the journey and keep your eyes and mouth on what God is doing for you and through you. How you act in times of waiting has a lot to do with the timing of your breakthrough.  Continue reading

The Narrow Path

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“Go in through the narrow gate, because the gate to hell is wide and the road that leads to it is easy, and there are many who travel it. But the gate to life is narrow and the way that leads to it is hard, and there are few people who find it.

Matthew 7:13-14 GNT

 

Following Jesus requires total attention, surrender, humility, dedication, and perseverance. Anything that is worth having is worth fighting for. Once you make the decision to follow Christ, there will be a lot of changes that will happen in your life. It’s something about when God gets ahold of you, things start to happen. Everything that you used to give to your flesh to satisfy it that isn’t Godly will have to be surrendered. It is true that if you are a Christian there are certain things that you cannot do, but you need to understand that whatever God says to do or not to do is for your own good. He knows the beginning from the end, a concept that you cannot grasp in the natural, so He knows what’s best for you in every single situation that you will ever face. It may seem like you are giving up a lot and your life may seem “boring,” but it is better to be “boring” than to be on your way to hell.  Continue reading