Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.
2 Timothy 2:23-26 NLT (emphasis added)
One way that we can ease frustration in our lives and maintain peace is to realize who our enemy really is. It’s not the people in our lives or even our circumstances, but the devil and his demon spirits. For all intent and purpose I will focus on “people.” We all encounter people every day of our lives with different personalities from our own. The devil is our ultimate enemy, but he can only be in one place at one time, so he sends out demon spirits to manifest in people, namely people that are close to us. People who are dearest to you may pose to be an enemy in the natural, but once you understand how the spiritual realm works, you will be better equipped to handle any type of person, in any circumstance.
First Peter 5:7 says, “Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour” (NLT). The devil is always looking to catch you off guard, and one of his many weapons to use is “people.” This is why it is important to understand 1 Timothy 2:26 because Satan will use certain people and they may not even know that they’re being used. It’s not the person that’s the problem…it’s the spirit working in them. In these cases we need to walk in love, as God commanded, and let Him handle the person and the situation (see 2 Timothy 2:25). Are there legitimately crazy and evil people in the world? Yes, but for the most part the people that you’ve sealed a relationship with aren’t those people.
It may seem that as soon you get a good Word or you’re in a great mood, someone comes along and tries to ruin it, but that’s all a part of the devil’s plan. He will make you think that it’s actually the person turning against you and if you don’t analyze the situation in a spiritual sense, you will end up with damaged relationships or no relationships at all. When you think about it rationally, for the most part, most people don’t even know that they’re acting a certain way that’s damaging to your relationship. In order to ease your stress and your nerves, you have to do what 1 Corinthians 13:7 says and “think the best of every person.” Thinking the best of a person who is getting on your nerves might sound like this, “I know this person isn’t deliberately trying to hurt me or make me angry. They may be having a bad day or dealing with a personal issue. I will walk in love and be kind to them. I trust God to make this situation right and give me the strength to be able to deal with them patiently. I rebuke the devil in the name of Jesus!” Walking in love is a lifestyle that God commands every Christian to engage in. Learning to be patient with difficult and irritating people is a valued virtue because it allows you to act like Jesus. You won’t be cursing people out, getting an attitude, flying off the handle, and burning with anger; but instead you will be thinking the best, being kind, and praying for others.
The most important things you can do when dealing with people is to first recognize the source so you know how to handle it, think the best of that person, walk in love, and forgive. Pray and let God handle their behavior and relax. John 14:27 (AMP) says to “stop allowing yourselves to be agitated and disturbed…” This passage of scripture shows that you don’t “have” to get angry and mad all the time. You can control your emotions and you are more than able to handle people with a holy ease. I highly encourage you to study the love walk in 1 Corinthians 13 and in other areas in the Bible. It will truly bless your life and change your perspective regarding people and circumstances. When you know what the Word says about certain types of people and situations and apply its principles to your life, you will see life gets easier to handle and people will be easier to get along with.