Circle of Influence


Don’t fool yourselves. Bad friends will destroy you.

1 Corinthians 15:33 CEV

As you grow and mature, you will find a lot of things you used to desire will disappear, including the people in your life. When God gets involved, He will begin to deal with you and show you people, things, and activities that are no longer productive in your life, and in order to walk righteously with Him, they have to go. I believe the most sensitive issue is letting go of friendships. 

The Bible says not to be unequally yoked (see 2 Corinthians 6:14), and hanging around bad company will ruin you (see 1 Corinthians 15:33).  In any type of friendship, one of two things will happen…either you will become more like the other person, or they will become more like you. To be honest, chances are if you’re yoked with a bad person, their habits, traits, and personality will rub off on you. Is it painful to let people go? Of course, especially if years of knowing each other are involved. But I know from personal experience that when God closes one door, He will open another. In this case, if He’s dealing with you to get rid of some people, He will send you godly friends that will edify your life and bring you closer to Him, rather than the opposite. If you don’t cuss, drink, smoke, rob and steal, gamble, have careless sex, watch porn, fight, cheat on your spouse, etc., then don’t hang around people who do. The result will only be disastrous for you. Your friends may not understand why you have to cut ties with them, but it’s not for them to understand. What you must remember is God’s opinion is the only one that matters. You only need to be concerned with obeying God, because when you are obedient, He will make everything right. You can block the blessings of the Lord in your life by not being obedient; and if you choose not to sever ties, and your life ends up worse than before, you can’t blame God. You are the only one to blame because you thought you knew better than God to keep those individuals around.

The devil will try to feed you every lie about why cutting ties is a bad idea. It takes a mature person to see that if a bad influence is in your life, it’s there to distract you from God, and ultimately land you in the devil’s camp. So of course the devil wants you to hold on. If you are having a hard time letting go, it would be helpful to pray, “Lord, I’m severing ties with people who are not good for me. I ask that you heal any wounds this may bring, and give me the strength to not go back to that particular friendship. But most importantly, Lord, I ask that you send me godly friends, handpicked by you, to not only edify my life, but also for me to edify theirs.” When you choose to follow God’s directions, He will answer your prayers regarding the situation.

Whether you want to believe it or not, your circle of friends has tremendous influence on your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. Don’t underestimate the power of the people in your life, even including your family. Surround yourself with people who will help your journey to Heaven instead of sending you on a detour to Hell!


One thought on “Circle of Influence

  1. Great post Toya! Definitely understand and have experienced this myself. It’s hard to make that transition, but it’s certainly necessary if you truly want to grow.


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