Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before.
1 Thessalonians 4:11 NLT (emphasis added)
This may come as a surprise to you, but one sure fire way to eliminate stress in your life is to simply mind your own business. Have the mindset the less you know the better. The more you know the more you want to help, and the more you will end up being stressed over the situation. We always want to be in the know, but it’s really so we can be nosy or stay in the loop that we have no business in in the first place. If you think about it, how many people do you know who find out what they want to know actually do something productive with the information? Oftentimes people’s motives are not pure to begin with, so once the information is received, it can be used as a source of gossip or manipulation. You need to be selective with the information that you let resonate with in spirit. I’m not saying to not help people who genuinely need help—even though that can still be stressful in and of itself—but what I am saying is if you don’t need to know certain information, be content without knowing. You will find that you will have so much more peace in your life if you just worry about your own affairs rather than adding the stress and pressure of someone else’s. To operate like this will not happen overnight, especially if you are the type that always has to know what’s going on. It will take the help of the Holy Spirit to constrain you, and discernment to know what to get involved in and what to leave alone.
I’ve learned that I don’t need to know everything going on with everybody, including with my family. My nature is to automatically try to help within my capability, but I’ve found that whatever information I end up finding out stresses me out more to a certain extent, especially if I can’t do anything to help. The saying is true, the less you know the better. It’s okay not to know everything. Why make life more complicated trying to be Captain Save the World.
If someone insists on telling you all their problems, just politely say, “I don’t need to know the details, but I will surely pray for you.” It may sound mean, but at some point you have to take care of your mental health and let God take care of His children. I’ve found that most of people’s problems need more than human help anyway, so why not give it to God since He is the only one with the solution. Sometimes for your own sanity, you just have to let God do His job. Don’t give your insight on matters that have nothing to do with you. In the end, it will only create more problems and stress that is unnecessary. God gave you the gift of peace, so dwell in it at all times.
Yanking a dog’s ears is no more foolish than interfering in an argument that isn’t any of your business (Proverbs 26:17 TLB).
Yet we hear that some of you are living idle lives, refusing to work and meddling in other people’s business (2 Thessalonians 3:11 TLB).