You cannot be everything to everybody all of the time. It is humanly impossible to do and attempted suicide if you try. In order to keep your sanity, you are just going to have to tell some people no, no matter who they are. You should have peace about the things that you commit yourself to, and if you do not, then you should not do it. Of course people will get mad at you, talk about you, and even shut you out, but if that’s the case, you probably need to reevaluate the people in your life and their true motives. If you don’t set boundaries, people will run you ragged. People are inherently selfish and needy and if you don’t set boundaries in your life, you won’t have one because you’ll be constantly living for others and their expectations. Continue reading How to Eliminate Stress Part 10: Learn to Say No
Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before.
1 Thessalonians 4:11 NLT (emphasis added)
This may come as a surprise to you, but one sure fire way to eliminate stress in your life is to simply mind your own business. Have the mindset the less you know the better. The more you know the more you want to help, and the more you will end up being stressed over the situation. We always want to be in the know, but it’s really so we can be nosy or stay in the loop that we have no business in in the first place. If you think about it, how many people do you know who find out what they want to know actually do something productive with the information? Oftentimes people’s motives are not pure to begin with, so once the information is received, it can be used as a source of gossip or manipulation. You need to be selective with the information that you let resonate with in spirit. I’m not saying to not help people who genuinely need help—even though that can still be stressful in and of itself—but what I am saying is if you don’t need to know certain information, be content without knowing. You will find that you will have so much more peace in your life if you just worry about your own affairs rather than adding the stress and pressure of someone else’s. To operate like this will not happen overnight, especially if you are the type that always has to know what’s going on. It will take the help of the Holy Spirit to constrain you, and discernment to know what to get involved in and what to leave alone. Continue reading How To Eliminate Stress Part 7: Mind Your Own Business
God makes everything happen at the right time. Yet none of us can ever fully understand all he has done, and he puts questions in our minds about the past and the future. I know the best thing we can do is to always enjoy life (Ecclesiastes 3:11-12 CEV emphasis added)
Proverbs 16:4 tells us “The Lord has a reason for everything he does…” (CEV). We never know what God is going to do and when He is going to do it. Because we are to live in expectancy, we need to just release our faith and go on about our day knowing that He will take care of our every need. Jesus said don’t be anxious about anything (see Philippians 4:6). Anxiety causes so many problems and zaps our joy. Jesus also said don’t worry about tomorrow because tomorrow holds its own troubles (see Matthew 6:34). Most people live in anxiety and worry, which does not change anything and it doesn’t please or move God. Continue reading What to Do in Times of Waiting
He said, “Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the LORD says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.
But you will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the LORD’s victory. He is with you, O people of Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out against them tomorrow, for the LORD is with you!”
2 Chronicles 20:15, 17 NLT (emphasis added)
One way we add stress to our lives is by trying to handle what only God can handle. I am guilty of this myself, even to this day, but I am getting better. I think unless you’ve had a strong upbringing in the Lord, people typically operate by using Him as a last resort. We tend to try to figure things out ourselves first and then if what we planned doesn’t work, then we turn to God. What we need to realize is that we need to go to God FIRST and let Him direct us on the path we should take (see Proverbs 3:5-6). When we get involved, we cause more mess and then it becomes a vicious cycle which usually ends with God getting the blame at the end. It’s funny how we blame God for something that he had absolutely nothing to do with (both the problem and the solutions that we cooked up on our own). Continue reading How to Eliminate Stress Part 6: Stop Trying to Fight