You cannot be everything to everybody all of the time. It is humanly impossible to do and attempted suicide if you try. In order to keep your sanity, you are just going to have to tell some people no, no matter who they are. You should have peace about the things that you commit yourself to, and if you do not, then you should not do it. Of course people will get mad at you, talk about you, and even shut you out, but if that’s the case, you probably need to reevaluate the people in your life and their true motives. If you don’t set boundaries, people will run you ragged. People are inherently selfish and needy and if you don’t set boundaries in your life, you won’t have one because you’ll be constantly living for others and their expectations. Continue reading How to Eliminate Stress Part 10: Learn to Say No
“The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get”
Proverbs 21:20 NLT
A lot of people’s stress comes from money problems, which can lead to stress in other areas of their lives. Some of our financial difficulties come from the demands of life, but honestly, most of the problems stem from not budgeting, living beyond our means, and not controlling our fleshly desires. We put a lot of unnecessary stress on ourselves for these very reasons. It really boils down to not wanting to do what the Bible says regarding money and wanting to spend whatever you want to spend. If you have this mentality you’ll have stress your whole life. Continue reading How to Eliminate Stress Part 8: Tackle Financial Debt
God makes everything happen at the right time. Yet none of us can ever fully understand all he has done, and he puts questions in our minds about the past and the future. I know the best thing we can do is to always enjoy life (Ecclesiastes 3:11-12 CEV emphasis added)
Proverbs 16:4 tells us “The Lord has a reason for everything he does…” (CEV). We never know what God is going to do and when He is going to do it. Because we are to live in expectancy, we need to just release our faith and go on about our day knowing that He will take care of our every need. Jesus said don’t be anxious about anything (see Philippians 4:6). Anxiety causes so many problems and zaps our joy. Jesus also said don’t worry about tomorrow because tomorrow holds its own troubles (see Matthew 6:34). Most people live in anxiety and worry, which does not change anything and it doesn’t please or move God. Continue reading What to Do in Times of Waiting
He said, “Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the LORD says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.
But you will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the LORD’s victory. He is with you, O people of Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out against them tomorrow, for the LORD is with you!”
2 Chronicles 20:15, 17 NLT (emphasis added)
One way we add stress to our lives is by trying to handle what only God can handle. I am guilty of this myself, even to this day, but I am getting better. I think unless you’ve had a strong upbringing in the Lord, people typically operate by using Him as a last resort. We tend to try to figure things out ourselves first and then if what we planned doesn’t work, then we turn to God. What we need to realize is that we need to go to God FIRST and let Him direct us on the path we should take (see Proverbs 3:5-6). When we get involved, we cause more mess and then it becomes a vicious cycle which usually ends with God getting the blame at the end. It’s funny how we blame God for something that he had absolutely nothing to do with (both the problem and the solutions that we cooked up on our own). Continue reading How to Eliminate Stress Part 6: Stop Trying to Fight
Work hard and cheerfully at all you do, just as though you were working for the Lord and not merely for your masters, remembering that it is the Lord Christ who is going to pay you, giving you your full portion of all he owns. He is the one you are really working for.
Colossians 3:23-24 TLB
A slave is defined as, “a person who is wholly subject to the will of another.” We are slaves to Christ first and foremost because we live our lives to serve Him, but we are also slaves in our workplace, meaning we are employees of the company and our bosses are the masters over us. This may be shocking to your mind to think of it in terms like this, but it’s true according to Scripture. Even in the most irritating and stressful of jobs, Christians are supposed to be a light in a dark place. This means that we cannot behave, think, and talk like everyone else on the job. Our co-workers, bosses, and customers should see something different about us. Most people hate their jobs, but what this attitude says is that you’re unthankful for what provision God has supplied you with. Having this type of attitude eventually leads to your actions showing exactly how you feel—your work will be half done, you’ll be unpleasant, you’ll engage in gossip, etc. This doesn’t please God one bit and it decreases your witness in the workplace. Having the wrong mindset will make any job/task stressful because it’s how you are thinking about it. It may be a simple task, but because you hate it, it makes it harder, and when things get hard, stress settles in. Continue reading How to Eliminate Stress Part 4: Make Your Job Easier
God made everything, and you can no more understand what he does than you understand how new life begins in the womb of a pregnant woman.
We can prevent a lot of unwanted stress in our lives if we just learn to trust God. He is the ruler over all, and because of this, He is free to do whatever He pleases whenever He decides to do so. Our job is to know that everything that God allows to happen will eventually work out for our good. We don’t have to understand everything that He does when we truly know that He has our best interest at heart. Trying to figure out what God is doing, or better yet, what we think He’s not doing, will only stress you out. Our minds our finite and can only see what’s in front of us right now, whereas God’s wisdom is infinite, and He knows the end from the beginning. He doesn’t operate or think the way we think, which is more reason why we shouldn’t try to figure out what He is doing. Isaiah 55:8-9 (MSG) paints the picture perfectly: Continue reading You Won’t Figure out God’s Ways